Through A Rapist’s Eyes” (Please Take Time To Read This. It May Save A Life.)

Rapist’s Eyes

I saw a Mom shared this in my Facebook feeds. I shared it to all my friends in Facebook that can see my wall. There is no doubt that this article will really help us women when we face difficult situation like this. I want to share my experienced as well. I was molested when I was a teen-ager by a family member of mine. Nobody knows it until now and keep it to myself. I never forget that experienced until now. During that time reporting a child who is molested is not popular. I was also almost raped by my cousin. I did fight and am glad that his bad intention did not push through. It is scary to think of it. I also worked in an orphanage in the hospital. I was assign to watch babies when they are sick. I treat them like my own child. One day, I was assigned to that hospital and see this little girl who is watching her own child. She is so mean to the baby and found out, she was raped by her own father. My heart break for that little girl. She was between 14-16 years old. How could you do that to your own child. I hope that you will take time to read this article.

Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.


1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

Beautiful hanging and basket flowers by our pool

Basket flowers

This post brought to you by Miracle-Gro. All opinions are 100% mine.

I am glad that my husband loves flower as well. He loves to decorate not only inside the house but outside as well. He always ask me about his plan and if I agree to it. I agreed to his plans usually.

Summer is the time when the family stays outside until dinner time. We spend most of our time in the pool if not in the pond. I love to watch my family having fun swimming in the pool. I also love the hanging flowers around our pool. I love this flower in the pot that says welcome. I water them too regularly to keep them beautiful.

My husband bought these flowers in the flower store. It is very expensive. I want to do it by myself next summer. I will save the hanging baskets and the pot. I need to buy flowers that are perfect for the hanging baskets and for the pot. I know that Miracle-Gro is my best secret to keep these flowers grow beautifully. I already proven that and still using it every time the family will plant flowers on our front yard.

We did many fun garden projects for the family. We always had a wonderful time together planting flowers. How about you? Do you love to plant flowers? Do you have an inspirational garden stories that you would love to share? You can share that to The Gro Project to inspired people especially the new gardeners. I also followed the Miracle-Gro Pinterest and inviting my readers to follow them too. I can find tips on how to keep my flowers beautiful. I am sure that my readers will do the same too.
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Thank you Mommy Gen for these beautiful bracelet and earring sets


I received these beautiful hand-made jewelry set from Mommy Gen. She sent me also a set of bracelet and earrings set for my daughter to match with mine. We both really love her handmade jewelry. Mommy Gen is very talented and skillful doing hand-made jewelry. She also creates hand-made cards as well.

hand made bracelet and earring sets from Mommy Gen

I was cleaning when I see her mail. I check what is inside and found her business card. She asks me if I could take a picture of my little girl wearing her hand-made jewelry sets. I ask my little girl and without any hesitation she posed for me. This is my little girl showing off her pretty hand-made bracelet and earrings from Mommy Gen. She also wear the earrings during her school picture day.
hand made bracelet and earring sets from Mommy Gen

Here is also a picture of me. I am sure it is not as pretty as my daughter. I am grateful to Mommy Gen for her generosity for sending me her beautiful handmade jewelry. Are you looking for hand-made jewelry or perhaps hand-made cards for your family or friends? You can find beautiful hand-made products from Mommy Gen’s creation. They are very affordable as well.
I received the jewelry for free. I am not compensated to write. All my thoughts and opinions are 100% honestly mine. It might be different from others.

Breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day

My little girl handed me this bag on Mother’s Day. It says breakfast in bed. She made this in school and bring it home last Friday. She keeps it a secret. My husband, my son and her only know this bag. The little girl woke up late because she slept late that Friday night.

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She handed me this bag on Mother’s Day while hugging and greet me. This is what it is written on the bag.







What a sweet girl she is. She said that I do not need to cook. All I need is sit down and she sits the counter for me. I open the bag and there is an orange, pop tarts and an apple juice bag. I slice the oranges and put the pop tarts in the toaster. I am glad that I cook rice early. My kids love to eat rice in the morning. I ask my kids what they want to eat for breakfast. They said they want rice, noodles and egg. I boil some water and fried eggs for them. We ate all together.
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It is awesome that I do not need to cook my breakfast. I shared the pop tarts to my little girl. She likes it too. We had a wonderful time eating breakfast. Being a mother to these two crazy and fun kids will not trade for anything else. I love these two rugrats in the world.
How about you? How was breakfast during your Mother’s Day?

Bought a Buffalo Sabres hockey pink shirt

Buffalo Sabres

I have a Buffalo Sabres jersey shirt that my husband gave me on my very first Christmas here in New York. It is a jersey hockey shirt of my favorite former Buffalo Sabres player Tim Connelly and has number 19 on it. I really like him because he is very cute. He also plays hockey very well. I have this jersey shirt since December of 2000. Tim Connelly is not playing in the Buffalo Sabres anymore. I do not know what team he is playing now.

my old Buffalo Sabres jersey Tim Connelly hockey shirt

Yesterday, my family watches the hockey live. The Buffalo Sabres is playing against Carolina Panthers. This is their second meeting of this year. We arrived in the First Niagara Center early. We decided to check the arena after we had an early dinner.
My Buffalo Sabres pink hockey shirt

There is a store that sells Buffalo Sabres stuff. They sell uniforms, accessories and toys for any Buffalo Sabres fan. I found this pink shirt that has a Buffalo words on the front a Buffalo Sabres team trademark. I really like it. I am glad that they have a size medium. It is a little pricey. It was $24 for this shirt. I ask the husband first. He told me if I want it then I can have it. I am now a happy woman.

Finished reading the first Fifty Shades of Grey book

Fifty Shades

I remember I was in high school when I start to read romance novels. My cousin I gave me all her Mills and Boons novels. I do not know how many books I have in that book. All I know is that once I read it and will never stop until I am reading the last page.

I never thought that I will hook up reading a romance novel again. I bought these Fifty Shades of Grey couple months ago but never have a chance to read until recently. I bought it in Wal-mart for $15. I should buy the 2nd and 3rd book as well during the time. I thought that I will never like reading this novel. I was wrong.
Reading Fifty Shades of Grey by the pool

It is a perfect time for me to read this book when my kids are in the pool swimming. I can see them while swimming. This book I believe was publish last year. I heard about it but never put any interest. It is the #1 New York Times bestseller by E. L James which is undeniable.
The moment I start reading the book, I do not want to put it down. I want to finish reading the book until I am on the last page. Finally I finished reading it after two days. I order the 2nd and 3rd book in Wal-Mart online but it will deliver in two weeks. I cannot wait. The suspense is killing me. I drove to Barnes & Nobles bookstore yesterday and bought the two books.

This book is about erotic romance. It is intended for mature audience. I really love this book. Have you read it? If not, I cannot tell you the story or else there is no thrill at all. I will share bit information. It is about a relationship between a submissive and dominant lover. Will you allow yourself to be submissive in terms of being intimate? Are you willing to please your man? I would say I am submissive to please my husband in bed. I will give this book five star.

I will link this entry to the 18th day of this month blog photo challenge.

4 Best jobs for stay at home moms

Best jobs for stay at home moms

Remember that any of these side hustles for mothers can be low maintenance with the chance of turning into a full-time gig. Envision beginning a side hustle on your own that dispatches into an immense achievement? I realize it sounds silly, however it’s actual, on the off chance that you have faith in yourself and your capacities, the sky is the limit!

While there are numerous approaches to acquire cash from home, here are 4 of the most ideal approaches to bring in additional cash as a housewife.

How about we get into the lucrative rundown of remain at home employments for mothers!



Its a well known fact why this one made the rundown at the main spot, correct? Blogging is precious to me and has managed me the chance to remain at home and raise my infants while winning a salary that deals with our family. It took a great deal of work, yet blogging has empowered us to totally take care of our obligation and resign my significant other at age 30. I entire healthily think blogging is probably the best occupation for mothers! As moms we have such an incredible capacity to share and help and make. You can utilize those abilities to truly construct something stunning!

Rate: $0 – $10,000+ every month

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Virtual Assisting

This is perhaps the best occupation for mothers during school hours since you can work a couple of hours assisting others with their business needs. Most hours are during the day or late around evening time when the youngsters are dozing and should be possible effectively from the solace of your own home! There will never be a superior time than now to figure out how to telecommute as a menial helper.

The extraordinary thing about being a remote helper is that it’s such a major umbrella for an assortment of abilities. You can for all intents and purposes help somebody with their email the executives, by making infographics for them or taking stock pictures that they need. Fundamentally anything in their business that is simply taking an excessive amount of time, you can help with!

Virtual helping is extraordinary compared to other homemaker employments. It’s too adaptable and the choices are unending!

You likewise could find a new line of work inside a week and begin making a couple hundred dollars for each month. With the development of online organizations, an ever increasing number of individuals are searching for remote helpers.

Beside blogging, I for one think turning into a remote helper is perhaps the best occupation you can do with an infant!

Rate: $15.00 every hour


Free what? Outsourcing is the point at which you secure positions to accomplish for customers. Envision composing blog entries for a major site, or making inforgraphics for a way of life influencer, or altering recordings for Facebook promotions.

Being a specialist is another extraordinary work at home gig since you have the adaptability to state “yes” or “no” to ventures that you need to chip away at. On the off chance that you need half a month or months off to help with your youngsters during different occasions, you are allowed to choose how a lot or how little you need to function.

In a couple of years from now, there are gauges that over half of the American workforce will be a piece of the Gig economy.

“The quantity of individuals chipping away at request [gig] employments will develop from 3.9 million Americans in 2016 to 9.2 million by 2021.” – source

This is an overly real approach to bring in cash from home. This housewife makes a full time pay from independent composition!

Rate: $15.00 every hour

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One of the most characteristic employments for mothers with children is to turn into a picture taker. Such huge numbers of new mothers get photography as a side interest once their sweet little beloved newborn is conceived.

Following a couple of long stretches of rehearsing photograhy on your own kid, you might be amazed by your new aptitudes!

Despite the fact that I’m not an expert picture taker, my companions employed me at $80+ every hour to take Christmas photos of their family.

It’s a phenomenal low maintenance work for mothers since you can take on photography shoots when you have time and take off when you have to.

Did you realize that bloggers and different organizations really pay for incredible photography and stock pictures to use on their blog? On the off chance that you have an eye for detail, you might have the option to sell a portion of your photographs for use on different locales!

Rate: $50-$100 every hour

Thank you M for this beautiful birthday and gift card

gift card

I got these two beautiful birthday cards on my birthday. Do you wonder why I got two birthday cards? It is because one card is for my birthday and one for Christmas. My birthday is also on Christmas. How very lucky I am, right? I also received a $25 gift card from Aeropostale. M is actually my husband’s eldest daughter that spent her two weeks winter break with her daughter who is also M. She is actually my step-daughter but we are seven (7) years apart. Is she not very sweet?

my birthday cards and gift card

I really like my birthday gifts. The cards are beautiful especially that napping cat on Santa’s hat. I want to say thank you so very much to M. I also gave her shirts from Aeropostale. They are all short sleeves as she lives in Florida. I hope that she will like the shirts as well. I am planning to buy a winter coat on my gift card. The winter coat I am wearing now is very light which does not keep me warm when it is very cold outside.

Betrayal on ABC is my favorite show to watch on Sunday night


There is a new show on ABC at ten (10) at night on Sunday. It is entitled the Betrayal. It is one of my new favorite show to watch. I am really addicted watching this show. The show has been air for about four (4) episodes now. I cannot wait for Sunday night and watch Betrayal again.

Jack (Stuart Townsend) is a legal counsel to his father-in-law’s business. They both were married. They met during Sara’s art gallery show. They both are unhappy with their marriage. Their path gets conflicated when TJ Jack’s brother-in-law killed accidentally his Uncle and was floating dead in the river. Sara’s husband is a district attorney that will handle the case. Jack does not know that Sara’s husband is handling the case.

Here is a video I found on You Tube. Please watch it and let me know if does not interest you.

I just love this show. It is intriguing, sexy and steamy. I cannot wait to watch it over and over. I know that in reality cheating is so wrong but with this show please let it be right. My Sunday gets better and hotter from watching football to Betrayal. You can watch Betrayal on and check Betrayal and you can watch episodes and let me know if like me you will get hook too.

10 work at home jobs that pay as much as a normal job

Home Jobs

Sometime in the past telecommuting was an unrealistic fantasy, however as of late, there’s been a flood of employments you can do from your own place.

Regardless of whether that is working remotely for an organization or going into business, there’s no deficiency of work-from-home chances. Here are 50 choices, huge numbers of which can produce yearly income that compare to more than the normal American pay.

  1. Member Marketer

For those new to offshoot advertising, it’s just referral showcasing where you procure a commission. Suppose that you have a site and allude a book on Amazon. At the point when the guest taps the associate connection and purchases the book, Amazon will pay you a level of the deal. Individuals love member showcasing on the grounds that they can begin acquiring cash latently with hardly any startup costs.

Related: 5 Ways to Ensure Remote Employees Feel Part of the Team


  1. Artist

Is it accurate to say that you are an aesthetic and innovative person who can make activity and enhanced visualizations for TV, motion pictures, computer games and different sorts of media? At that point you can work at home as independent artist. (By and by, I’ve seen artists make between $25 to $106 an hour on locales like Upwork.)

  1. Pastry specialist/Caterer/Chef

On the off chance that you have a skill for preparing or cooking, at that point transform your energy into a side business. From your own kitchen, you could begin a providing food business or become an individual cook. In case you’re a bread cook, you could offer you merchandise to companions, neighbors, on the web or at nearby rancher’s business sectors.

  1. Blogger

Blogging is economical and simple to begin doing. It could be as straightforward as you simply expounding on your preferred music or food, and in the end, you can begin creating cash from your site. Simply remember that you have to pay persistent with regards to capitalizing on your blog. On the off chance that this is something you need to seek after, look at this guide.


  1. Clerk

In all honesty, you don’t need to be a CPA to begin accounting. Simply pursue an accounting course at a junior college or even on the web, (for example, this course from The Accounting Coach). When you complete a course, you can begin gaining, and the middle compensation is allegedly $34,000. (Some stay-at-home accountants I’ve spoken with by and by make more than $70,000.)

  1. Youngster Caregiver

Regardless of whether if it’s only for a few hours or for the whole day, maintaining a childcare business from your home can be rewarding. Simply ensure that you acquire the right licenses and allows.

  1. Clinical Research Coordinator

Clinical exploration facilitators help oversee activities for clinical preliminaries. You could make more than $48,000 with this activity, and you needn’t bother with a four year college education.

Related: Bashing the Stereotypes: What You Need to Know About Gen Z


  1. Counseling

On the off chance that you have understanding and information in a particular zone, at that point think about offering it to other people. For instance, in the event that you’re a bookkeeper or legal advisor, at that point you can give guidance to independent ventures to a chunk of change. You could likewise counsel organizations on the most proficient method to utilize another product program or how to turn out to be all the more earth well disposed. (In case you’re intrigued, my organization offers a counseling manual for begin.)

  1. Client assistance Representative

Do you have incredible relational abilities? Do you likewise have a landline and dependable web? At that point you can procure somewhere in the range of $8 and $15 every hour as a client support agent.

  1. Information Entry

Contributing information for organizations isn’t the vast majority of energizing of occupations. Be that as it may, you needn’t bother with any past experience, and you can begin at $10 every hour.